Lord, Allah, Buddha, Yahweh, Vishnu, Brahman… They all know we could use some saving. & I found just the
Wonderwoman to do it! She goes by the name of Stevi, and boy is she a gem! A rare one at that, yet so precious, I just had to share a little bit of her heart + mind with you all… Believe me, I’d be doing you a huge disservice if I decided to be greedy. After nearly being brought to tears by such compassion, I guarantee she will move your hearts like I know she moves mountains. From the minute I saw her blog, I was curious as to how she managed to turn her cannots into CANS with such style and grace… And just like that, she extended her hand to me and welcomed me into a dream, or what she likes to call… Reality.
Q: I see you’re from Pasadena but lived in Atlanta. Where do you call home? In what ways have these two totally different places help mold you into the [wonder]woman you are today?
A: I will always be a California girl. You know, my dad grew up in Dena so I have so many ties to the city itself. When you’re a kid living in a suburb of Los Angeles, you’re so thirsty to get into the city. But I think living in Pasadena gave me enough distance to truly mature without the toxic influences of “Hollywood”. Yet, I was still able to get in and out whenever I wanted.
I came to Atlanta to attend Spelman College in ’08. It was a culture shock to say the least. It shaped me in ways that I never imagined. Walking down the same streets/campus of MLK Jr. and other civil rights pioneers will ignite an advocate fire in you! Also, the south is not liberal like Cali- I had to learn that quick.
Q: Takes a real wonderwoman to stick it out! Haha. Speaking of superheroes… Who’s your favorite?
A: Ahhh, this is kind of cheating but I love X-Men. Every kid spends a year waiting for their superhero powers to show (haha). I wanted to be like Storm so bad… I think because she was such a badass black woman in an all white cast. But X-Men has great back stories and complex characters.
Q: What do you do when you’re not blogging and waiting for superhero powers to show? =] What’s your favorite way to pass time?
A: I spend a lot of time eating (haha). I love food and I love dialogue. I love to pick people’s brains, learn about their experiences and see how the world is thinking/changing.
Q: Spoken like a true blogger! Because ultimately, you become a platform of and for truth. With that being said, I’m sure it is also safe to say that Dr. Maya Angelou influenced you in more ways than one, as she is a teacher first, poet second. With her passing, what/which of her many lessons will you continue to carry with you as you continue on your own journey?
A: I think if I’ve learned anything from her life, it’s to be in the moment. There’s no time to dwell on the past pity parties of our lives. embrace the new triumphs, adversity, relationships, food (haha), everything! she was dope. Now, if I lose Toni Morrison.. I don’t know what I’ll do!
Q: Being a blogger, I have a strong affinity for impeccable writing styles, yours especially. So this is just something I genuinely want to know out of curiosity because I don’t want to feel like a weirdo—but did you ever read the dictionary when you were little? Lol. I used to in my sixth grade math class and I got teased 24/7 for it but there was no shame in my knowledge game.
A: First off, Thank you for such a nice compliment.
Secondly, It’s funny you should say that. I loved to read thesauruses as a kid. I loved how words so similar in meaning can have totally different connotations. I think that’s why I write the way I do. My professors in college would always circle words in my papers (either because they liked it or I was being “too flowery”) haha.
Q: LOL! Twinssss! I know exactly what you mean. I had a professor who went to Yale and he had the nerve to tell me I needed to “dumb down” my paper! But anyway! Lol. What’s your favorite book? If you could ask the author of that book three questions, what would they be? What are you reading now?
A: That’s such a hard question! I hate to sound cliche but probably Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison. I read the book once when I was like, 14 and then again when I was 21. That novel talks back to you and it mocks you for even THINKING you had it figured out the last time. I’ll read it again next year.
I would ask him:
1) if he’s more connected to the character Bledsoe, the protagonist or the protagonist’s father who said, “undermine them with smiles and yessuhs”.
2. Are you pissed that we published your second novel when it was unfinished?
3. why did you torment yourself so much?
(eh. I hope I’d have the balls to ask him something like that haha)
I’m reading “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There”. It’s a book about common leadership habits that we have to break bc they usually get in the way of own success.
Q: That’s not cliche at all. *makes a mental note to check that book out next* Have you learned anything new since your last post, “Things I’m Learning in my Twenties?”
A: Have I?! (haha) I have so much to talk about but one, I have to pace myself and not overload my readers. I think we all need time to reflect collectively. Two, there are some things that I need the courage to say… I have to make sure I have enough distance from an experience to understand it clearly. But yes, everything from career paths, new insecurities, dating, sex, spirituality, and epiphanies.
Q: Like they say, “Hindsight is 20/20.” And relearning yourself is truly a lifelong journey. I know you said you had a pretty normal childhood growing up (so did I), but was there anything you did that got you into trouble, even if it were little? I know I, too, had a fairly normal childhood but I always got into mischief with my older brother – ie. Sneaking downstairs late at night in kindergarden to watch Martin lol. (I know, I know. Such a badass) What do you miss most about being a kid?
A: Pretty normal. but actually I started experimenting with alcohol at a young age (I know that sounds bad). I never got drunk, but I definitely shouldn’t have been drinking!
Q: Hahahaha, it’s all good. My boyfriend calls me an alcoholic and teases that I’m gonna give my niece alcohol when she’s like 8! I’m not, though. I swear. But on that note… What would you tell your 13 year-old-self?
A: Never settle.
Q: So simple, yet so very accurate, and an art so difficult to master. What is your favorite quote/song lyric?
A: “Warm as the sun dipped in black; finger tips on the small of my back.” Lauryn Hill, sweetest thing. What great imagery! Gets me every time..
Q: You gotta love a girl who loves Lauryn! *Tries to still my beating heart* =’] Do you keep a journal outside of your blog? I kept one while I was abroad and now I’m starting a “gratitude” journal; kind of stole the idea from this book I’m reading, “The Happiness Project.”
A: Welp that’s kind of how my blog came about. After my mother passed, I decided to get a journal. However, I was so bored… telling myself what I already knew. I wanted interaction and a place for a more creative outlet. I keep hearing about this gratitude journal, I need to see what’s up!
Q: First, I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. I’m in complete awe of how you manage to exude such positive vibes and energy that is so damn contagious. I’m reading this and every word you’re saying is resonating so profoundly… Secondly, I TOTALLY suggest you do the Gratitude Journal! I’m sure your readers would love to read it <3 Something about you seems so beautifully fearless, not just your handle :). Is there anything that actually does scare you?
A: I am terrified of being unhappy. & because that state of being is so dependent upon me, it’s even more terrifying. I’ve experienced a lot of uncommon/ unfortunate circumstances, but nobody wants to hear excuses or join a pity party. my joy and happiness is on me. it’s scary and invigorating all at the same time.
Q: How do you cure writer’s block? Who and what is your inspiration to wake up everyday? To write?
A: I think my biggest inspiration for writer’s block is dialogue. The conversations I have with people or see online spark so many things for me to write about. Amy inspiration to wake up is God. God has been an unmoving, stable variable in my life and I know he has an awesome plan for my life. I’m excited!
A: Wallet, Chapstick, keys, cell phone, a phone charger for said iPhone, and a fresh pair of undies!
Q: Lol, I am not mad at that at all! What was the last experience that made you stronger?
A: I would have to say, my promotion at work. A lot of people didn’t want to see me win and it made me reevaluate how I would maneuver in my career. If I learned anything from that, it’s to lean into discomfort.. you grow.
Q: Progress is the process! What’s the best gift you ever received? …Given?
A: I don’t know! I love getting love notes. there’s something so timeless and raw about them. I know what my best gift was, but I don’t wanna talk about it (giggles and hides in a corner).
Q: Completely understandable! 😉 Do you believe in horoscopes? If so, what does your sign say about you?
A: I’m not obsessed with horoscopes but I do believe that people tend to carry similar traits from the time they’re born.
I am definitely a Cancer. I can have mood swings and I am emotional behind my outer shell. I’m extremely loyal and nurturing. I like steadiness but hate predictability so I tend to do things that surprise people.
Q: Where are the top three places we could stalk you? Internet, real-life, wherevs.
A: uhh.. twitter, dirty bars, and Instagram lol
Q: Lol! Do you have an Instagram account? Who are your favorite people to follow?
A: I do, “wondaaawoman”. I don’t really have a favorite person to follow except for my close friends. Because we all live in different parts of the country, it gives me a photo glimpse into their lives!
Q: Kind of bringing that sense of closeness to your heart by way of your Instagram feed. I love it! Now I know the men reading this are itching to know… Are you single? Are you spoken for? What’s your stance on love? What does it mean to you?
A: (haha) I’m in a relationship. I’m all about love- real, truthful, selfless love. God’s love is perfect, that’s what I’m all about. I’m a product of two generations of love at first sight. I’m a hopeless romantic with high standards (haha).
I have a few “What If” questions for you before I let you go…
…If you knew the world was ending at the end of the year, what would you do? Go to Greece, volunteer doing mentorship, and to be honest, party my face off! lol
…If you could plan the perfect holiday, like a create-your-own type… What would it be? Woah. probably a “make-a-wish” holiday. everyone submits a wish (creative, you can’t wish for money), and the government has to make it happen! lol
…If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would you meet? Andre 3000.
…If you could choose to stay a certain age forever, what would age would you pick? 22. it’s a beautiful age.
Thank you so much for taking the time to do this interview with me and allowing us all a small glimpse into your vastly magical blogging world. Hopefully the stars align and we get to cross beloved paths when I’m in LA, because Lord knows I’d be honored
You see… We all need a little rescuing sometimes, and after single-handedly turning her d r e a m s into accomplishments, there’s no denying her